hsps together
by Rosemary Skinner
Now after learning about hsp traits I know why my husband and I were drawn to each other over 30 years ago. He was more aware of his temperament than I was, early in our married years he turned to me in exasperation one day, after I was trying to busy up our lives, and he said "I need some time to myself!" At first I felt rejected and for several years didn't get it. After going through a rat race type of life myself, and thinking I was doing what everybody else was doing,I needed a break,and after reading the highly sensitive person book by elaine aron, I realized I was in need of time by myself also. I was this way as a child also, but kind of went underground as a young adult in order to feel I was fitting in. The book also addressed this, saying that the trait is somewhat lessened at the teenage young adult phase of our life, probably to aid us in establishing a career and family. Now I understand that my husband needs at least one day a week to go off by himself in his man cave undisturbed. And I'm learning that women need a day like that also, although we have to take it in smaller increments, as one whole day off isn't possible!
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