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Teacher/Advisor

by Vette

I just started working as a teacher/advisor last fall and I'm not too crazy about it. I really like being an advisor and talking to students one-on-one, but managing a classroom is the difficult part because I get really tired of having to shout (not yelling at students angrily) to get their attention; otherwise they won't hear me. I just don't think I'm the disciplinarian type; I think I'm too soft/gentle. And I find myself getting overwhelmed and exhausted when they're talking all at once...it reminds me of having conversations with friends and they talk so much I can't get a word in and I'm always waiting for a pause/break (sometimes I'll try to talk over the noise or ask for their attention).

Not only that, but dealing with the drama in the office is bad enough. These people constantly gossip about each other and lord knows who else. If you make a mistake, they would run to the supervisor, but not tell you. And I know they didn't like it when I told our new supervisor that one of them was putting too much work on me. It's like high school, but it was not like this when I was in high school, LOL! For the first time, I had even considered self-employment!

I'm so sick of the BS and I keep to myself because i don't want to be bothered. Sometimes I get backaches, my stomach gets upset, and now I think my face is breaking out a little.

So while I'm here, here's what i do to keep my sanity:

*go to the park on my break
*listen to the radio to drown out some of the gossip noise
*try to think of interesting activities/topics to discuss for class

It's frustrating looking for work because I feel like the jobs I see are not what I really want to do. But I've got to keep working on this and figure out a plan.

Thanks for listening :-)

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Mar 21, 2010
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From a Kinder teacher who also feels the drain...
by: "Too Sensitive"

I appreciate that you shared your experience here. I too am a teacher of kinder. little ones. I worked in fashion before teaching and thought that working with teachers would be nurturing and positive. I find the lunchroom to be a bit poisoned by the gossip of a few teachers. I try to focus on the other people in the room. I get drained by the negativity and competition of some. I also struggle with guiding the whole group of students. It takes so much energy. I appreciate the special times with sensitive students like me who I can support and encourage. I know I'm making a difference for those sensitive ones but also feel that I may not be able to continue this profession due to the energy load. I hardly do anything outside of work..just recharge to go back to school again. Blessings to you. I hope you find the work that does not deplete your energy. I am trying to accept that although I know I am making a difference for a few students, it is ok for me to switch work to something that preserves my energy in a more healthy way. A good friend of mine said that no matter where I am, I help people. It doesn't need to be compartmentalized into my school work job. This is true... In life, there are so many opportunities to support others without losing vial energy...

Blessings and love

Sep 13, 2009
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Silent Strength
by: Erika Harris

Vette,

I *love* the fact that you discovered and use some positive practices to help deal with the more challenging aspects of your position. I'm a huge fan of taking time-outs, and when I can take them outside (like you do in the park), even better!

When you're restoring yourself -- with a stroll, or with music, or while considering current events you'll turn into talking points -- you're giving yourself a Fresh, Expanded Mind. And our Fresh, Expanded Minds know that gossip is the fruit of small, tired minds. It's not life-giving, inspired or even interesting. Gossipers remind me a little of wounded animals on the side of road... hurt, injured and watching everyone else pass them by. They're scared and vulnerable. Not powerful or threatening.

I'm glad you shared your ideas, Evette! Oh, and about the classroom management... My Mom taught for more than 20 years, and this was her biggest challenge, too. Please be patient with yourself, as a new educator, and know that you're doing a great job. And that your Silent Strength is not to be underestimated.


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